Standing on the precipice of chaos and change

In twelve hours I will be on a plane headed to China to meet our Peanut.  Over the past week countless people have asked how I am feeling.  Excited? Nervous? Anxious?  Ready? Scared?  My answer…yes.  I currently have all the feelings.

In some ways the second time around is easier.  We know what to expect.  We are familiar with the process.  And some ways it is much harder.  We know what to expect.  We know how truly hard adoption is.

I am a safe person.  I like the known.  I like to be in control.  Bringing Collins home is none of those things.  But she is worth it.

Life as we know it is about to be turned upside down.  Chaos and change are inevitable.

On Sunday I looked up and saw Quinn standing on the front of the boat trying to sum up the courage to jump.  In that moment she perfectly represented how I currently feel.  Peering over the edge trying to anticipate what it feels like on the other side.  Knowing there will be an initial shock, but the water will gradually feel warmer.  Butterflies in my stomach, fists clinched in anxiety.  But knowing that being brave is what I am called to be.

The time is here.  It’s time to jump.

Collins, we are coming for you!

“Be The Light” adoption fundraiser t-shirts

We are excited to announce our final adoption fundraiser…T-shirts!

I love supporting my friends’ adoptions and have a drawer of cute adoption tees.  So when we decided to do a t-shirt fundraiser to help bring Collins home I knew I wanted super soft shirts (think your favorite sleeping tee) with a simple design.

The phrase “be the light” came to me almost immediately.  Obviously I blog over here at “letting in the light” and one of my favorite passages in the bible is Matthew 5:1-17 and begins “You are the light of the world…”.  In a world full of darkness, BE THE LIGHT.  It felt like the perfect text to represent our family and this adoption.

The light just shines out of this guy.

Designs available:

Adult:
Sizes S-XL in charcoal heathered grey
Script font with white text


Block font with light grey text

Youth:
Sizes XS-L in light heathered grey
Black, dark pink or dark grey text
Script or block font

Cost:
$18 each
Shipping add $5 for 1-3 shirts and $8 for 4 or more shirts.

How to order:

email your order to melsbury24@gmail.com

Please include:

Name

Shipping address

Please specify: Type (adult or youth), Size,  and Font (script or block) desired.

For youth sizes only: please specify black, dark pink, or dark gray text.

Your e-mail address

How you would like to pay (in person, by mail, or PayPal)

Note: All orders are pre-orders. We will collect orders thru June then place a bulk order. We expect them to arrive in mid July.

Thank you for cheering us on and helping to support our family!

*feel free to share!!!*

Adoption Update: the paper chase, a new pic, and HER NAME!!!

I thought I would pop in for a quick adoption update post.  Things have been fairly quiet here lately on the ole bloggity blog due to our lives being completely overwhelmed with preparation for our HUGE adoption fundraiser yard sale coming up this weekend.  Hopefully next week I will be back to posting more regularly.

First up, I thought I would update everyone on where we currently are in our process to bring Peanut home.  Our dossier, which includes our home study, many different letters, forms and approvals, has been approved through the local, state, and embassy levels and has been signed, sealed, and delivered to the Chinese government and logged into their system.  We are currently awaiting China’s approval, called an LOA, and then the process will come back to the US immigration side.  Our best guess is that we will travel early fall (September?) to bring her home.

We recently received a short update with a couple of pictures, a short video of her WALKING! and updated measurements.  Our 21 month old Peanut is still living up to her nickname weighing in at a whopping 15 pounds.  So Tiny!

Now, on to her name…

There have been hours and hours of discussions, hundreds of names considered and I was STRUGGLING to chose a name.  With some reflection, I realized that I was putting so much pressure on choosing the perfect name for Peanut because it’s the only part of this process I can control.

As a refresher, we had some self-imposed naming rules.  Did we follow these rules?  Let’s see…

  • Must be a surname/last name that can be used as a first name (i.e. Owen, Anderson, Quinn)…Check!
  • Must begin with a letter other than M, S, O, A, Q (no repeat initials in this family)…Check!
  • Must end in and “n” sound (i.e. Shane, Megan, Owen, Anderson, and Quinn all end in that sound)…Um, sort of???? ish???

So, two and and half out of three isn’t bad.  After all (self imposed) rules are made to be broken.

So without further adieu, let me introduce you to…

Collins Violet Elsbury

(a.k.a. Peanut forever)

Thanks to all that weighed in on the name game.  We think it fits her perfectly.  Collins, we can’t wait to bring you home!

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What’s in a Name?

So we are struggling.  Struggling to decide on a name for our little Peanut.

I’m not going to go into our decision to give her a new American name and not keep her Chinese name.  But the reasons are many (one of which is that most Americans can’t pronounce it correctly).  So we are on the hunt for the perfect name.

You see, I have these rules that I want the name to fit into.  We still have our original name that we had if the boys had turned out to be a girl.  It is Norah.  With an h?  Without an h?  I can’t decide.  But it doesn’t fit my rules.

These two didn’t turn out to be Norah’s after all

What are my rules?

{ONE}

It needs to be a last name/surname that can be used as a first name. (i.e. Owen, Anderson, and Quinn)

This Butler dress is the very first thing I bought for Quinn before we even knew who she was

{TWO}

It needs to end in an “n” or “n” sound. (i.e. Shane,  Megan, Owen, Anderson, and Quinn)

{THREE}

It needs to start with a first letter OTHER THAN “S”,”M”, “O”, “A”, or “Q”.  (I frequently label things with our first initial, so no duplicates)

That’s it!  Easy peasy, right???  Well, we are having a hard time.  There are some names we like but have ruled out.  For example I like Emerson but it’s too close to Anderson.  Rowen (part of her Chinese name is Wen) it too close to Owen…

There are currently a couple of front runners but no clear winner yet.  We want the name to be perfect.  And then there is the issue of a middle name.  Gah!

I thought it would be fun to document my crazy baby name rules so we can look back in the future.

If you have any suggestions, I would love to hear them.  Sound off in the comments!

One last note.  If you are interested in helping us bring Peanut home, feel free to do your Amazon shopping through our blog affiliate link.  It costs you no additional charge and we will earn a small portion of your purchase in commission.  All earnings will go into our adoption fund to bring Peanut home.  Thank you for supporting our family!

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